But the politics of adoption made life even harder.There are currently initiatives underway in a few states that would prohibit single-parent adoptions, based on the assumption that single parents—especially men—can’t raise a child to be a psychologically healthy adult. Couples have it the easiest, of course, because, by traditional standards, a family is made up of a mother and father.For single women eager to start a family, many are betting on the idea that it will happen for them "someday." They imagine that "someday" includes a thriving career, a supportive and loving partner, a home and a steady marriage. That thought inspired writer Leah Campbell to first consider the idea of adoption at age 29.After donating her eggs in college, she ran into serious health issues in her mid-20s that led to a "now or never" fertility sentence.This also stinks because if we’re saints and angels, we can’t ever be jerks or human or need help, and that’s bad, because sometimes this is hard. ” or “Well, they aren’t your REAL kids are they” or “Are you going to adopt them? Not only is that stuff private, but it is HORRIBLE for the kids to hear people speculating about their families whom they love, or their future.Didn’t anyone ever explain to you that you never say anything bad about anyone’s mother (or father) EVER?I’ve paraphrased and borrowed and added some things of my own, but this is truly collaborative piece, and meant to be shared. So if you’d like to circulate it, use it in a training, distribute it at foster-awareness day, hang it on the wall, run it somewhere else, give it out to prospective foster parents, whatever, go right ahead. I care much more than people know this than that I get credit – and most of the credit goes to a lot of other wonderful people who want to remain anonymous, most of them wiser and more experienced than I. Some of us hope to expand our families this way, some of us do it for the pleasure of having laughing young voices around, some of us are pushed into it by the children of family or friends needing care, some of us grew up around formal or informal fostering – but all of us are doing it for our own reasons BECAUSE WE LOVE IT and/or LOVE THE KIDS and WE ARE THE LUCKY ONES – we get to have these great kids in our lives.We hate being told we must be saints or angels, because we’re doing something really ordinary and normal – that is, taking care of kids in need.
All these issues took months for me to realize the truth: they weren’t really issues.
I've worked with children of all ages my entire life (care-giver, coach, teacher, mentor, tutor, counselor).
I am financially, emotionally, physically and mentally stable, well-educated, accomplished and settled.
Offers an interactive co-parenting class called Children Caught in the Middle that focuses on children growing up between two homes and how to foster healthy co-parenting relationships.
Dallas Association for Parent Education Dallas, 972/699-0420 or 972/699-0438 The association’s Warmline/E-Warmline (972/699-7742) is a free phone service staffed by trained volunteers, available to parents and caregivers from Monday through Friday from 9am to 3pm.