In 64 percent of heterosexual couples, the man is older.In 23 percent, the woman is older, and in the remaining 13 percent, the partners are less than 12 months apart in age.There's always going to be an exception to the rule (just look at George and Amal Clooney, who have a 17-year age gap between them).Rather, studies like these simply lend legitimacy to the idea that age differences can also equate to significant differences in interests, lifestyle, and long-term goals between partners.We've already discussed how a relationship age gap of 10 years or more can increase your chance of having marital problems down the line—but what about setting yourself up for success in the relationship department?
I would like to know how to approach a relationship with an age gap. But age is definitely a factor when you date someone. Given the focus on age in our community, it's not strange at all that this issue is coming to the fore.
In my research with gay men for my book, The Mandates: 25 Real Rules for Successful Gay Dating, I never met one who described a date without telling me the guy's age first.
I found that opinions on age difference run the gamut from fearful to desirable.
For example, Alex, 27, told me that there was "no way dating a guy more than 10 years older than me would work. I want a boyfriend who's my age so we can go through similar stages together.
I don't want a guy who's already 'been there, done that' when I haven't." But Ian, 25, felt the opposite.