We’re not talking necessarily about social class, family status, wealth, or education.
We mean the sum total—the whole package–of qualities a person brings to a relationship.
It’s destructive to your self-esteem and dating success. I’ve witnessed an overweight construction worker married to one of the hottest women I’ve ever seen.
When you claim a woman is out of your league, I bet you’re basing it on physical attractiveness. Just because she’s pretty does not mean she’s perfect. While I won’t lie that physical attraction is important to me, it isn’t the most important quality I look for. And I’ve spoken with hundreds of women over the years who all have various tastes in men.
It’s not because they are flawed, it has more to do with the fact that there is so much opportunity it’s hard for guys to make a decision. You have to take chances in life and not worry so much about rejection.
While pursuing physical fitness is certainly part of the equation for most, biceps and triceps will only get you so far. Besides, from the neck up, your only real choice is to concentrate on that blob of grey matter between your ears.
Since everyone loves to use this as an excuse, I figured I should teach men the secret to dating women out of their “league”. She’s a human with her own issues, faults, and baggage. I’ve coached clients of all types and personalities to date women they find attractive.
Yet the mainstream media, your family, and even you yourself perpetuate this idea. Would none of these things make a difference to you? You’re placing her on a pedestal and idealizing her when you have no clue who she really is. I have a 5’5” friend who dates gorgeous girls that tower over him.
But the premise did raise questions about how singles with much different levels of attractiveness and attributes fare when they become romantically involved.
In the movie, Kirk is an average guy who works at the Pittsburgh airport.