I know you don’t have a magic wand, so I just have to play the hand I’ve been dealt.I’m willing to take a risk by contacting women who list that they are “not sure” about wanting children.That is: All women want children—as one gynecologist told me, "That's what we're here for."But I don't want to.I stayed with my first serious boyfriend for seven years.(2) Figure out your own shit out so you don't harsh everyone's good time. Sometimes a woman just doesn't want to experience giving birth and being the primary (or sole) caretaker for a bebe.That doesn't mean she wouldn't love to play second fiddle to the little ones in your life.When we broke up and I entered the NYC dating carousel, I was 30 and had no idea what I was doing.But, contrary to all the horror stories I'd heard, I had fun.
I don’t want to date someone, grow attached to her and then feel hurt when the parenthood issue sends us off on our separate ways.
You should have your own baby feelings figured out. A decision like this is not easily come to and when she says she doesn't want kids, she means it. You're going to do lots of super-fun stuff together.
If you're dating a woman who doesn't want to have kids, you should know whether or not you do. It's insulting to everyone involved when you try to cajole or trick her into babies. She's most likely very into spontaneous activity and you'll be taking lots of last-minute road trips, surprise dates, and wacky adventures together. Not having kids means more freedom and more disposable income, so it's easy peasy to book a last-minute flight to Japan because Travelzoo is having a crazy deal.
The option of least risk would be to filter my searches to only return profiles of women who are sure they don’t want to be parents.
My problem with that option is that it also returns a greatly reduced number of profiles.