The fact of the matter is most people spend very little time researching and getting to know the other person before they start datingthey just jump into the relationship. They have fears of unwanted pregnancy, date rape, drug use, physical abuse, or simply having their children get a needless and unnecessary broken heart.Carolyn commented she first had to try and figure out why her parents didn’t like her boyfriend.When I asked him when is she moving out, he just said, “maybe the end of the year”, which is still 4 months away.He said that he feels bad for her because he knows what it’s like to be on your own and how scary that is.Here was a person who could meet your needs the way you have always wanted. You are justified in your anger, yet anger is a way to stay connected to someone, albeit not a positive way. And it is more difficult still when you occasionally interact with the wonderful, caring side of him.If you keep wanting to call up your ex, or show and tell him how much of a mistake he made, you are holding on with anger. Walking away from or losing such a relationship can be the hardest thing you will ever do.Just because they are your parents and you don’t agree with them doesn’t make them dumb. Although far from perfect, they have years of experience and wisdom you don’t.
You have been looking for that kind of love all of your life. If you were only good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, patient enough, your ex would have given you the love you wanted, all of the time. Anger arises when someone has something you want but won’t give it to you, especially when giving it seems the natural or expected thing to do. It is very difficult to throw away this type of connection.
Parents remember their own good and bad choices while dating.
They just want you to be protected from bad consequences which could affect the rest of your life.
Be prepared to say exactly what he/she is doing to you and how it makes you feel.
You might even want to take a friend with you when you talk to him/her.