Think about your parents’ generation: They grew up with no Internet, they likely stayed in the same town for most of their lives, and they automatically had more in common with the people in that town as a result.
Today, women and men are increasingly marrying someone outside of their religion, their ethnicity and their geographic area.
How does that first adorable hint of jealousy snowball into full-blown insecurity and dependence?
In my previous blog, "Why You Keep Winding Up in the Same Relationship" I explored this mystery, addressing why we often repeatedly choose similar partners and end up in the same unsatisfying or unsuccessful unions.
Here I want to address some of these questions and propose a way out of the patterns that lead us to choose the wrong partners so that we can establish relationships with the right ones.
Identify Your Pattern We don't always fall for someone simply because their positive qualities compliment our own but also because their negative traits fit ours so well.
And we do actually have more choice than ever, with millennials concentrating in urban areas at a higher rate than any other generation, and marrying at a significantly lower rate and at later ages than previous generations (hence more singles)."I would love fewer options in an ideal world," said Abby, 25, and dating in New York City.* "It can certainly get confusing and monotonous at times" to monitor so many apps and possible partners.
With so many choices in dating, particularly with the rise of online sites and apps, what should make dating easier than ever seems to make it impossibly stressful.
How are we supposed to know when our attractions should be warning signs?
What qualities should we steer away from when we don't even know a person yet?
Never in history have we had so many potential partners to choose from - and never have we had so much difficulty choosing.
In fact, several recent studies suggest that this explosion of options has made men and women feel more confused and uncertain about finding a partner than ever before.