While some women do meet their husbands through their parents, Islam gives women the final say over whether or not to marry that person.Family plays a strong role in the lives of many American Muslim women, but the majority who submitted contributions to our book did not meet their partners through family recommendations. For many of us, the idea of marrying someone you are not in love with is shocking.Tayyib and Qandeel after over a decade because of her affair with another man.Khan and Dawood after more than five years together primarily because of his emotional abuse.By the way, this is not a Muslim problem exclusively; it is a problem of all faiths, again it is not the faith, but the whims of the guardians of faith.
While compiling the book, we ran head-on into lots of myths about the love lives of American Muslim women. Muslim women marry men their parents choose for them.
Researching the matrimonial sites, out of 1000 Muslim women, only 30% of them over the age of 50 have listed Islam as their religion, the rest have called them spiritual but not religious, and add that religion is no bar to them.
A majority of Muslims quietly go along with it, some have a lot of questions and some are ready to quote verses from Quran and make declarations that they are out of the pale of Islam.
Twenty five of the best submissions form our new book, “Love Insh Allah,” which means “God willing” in Arabic and expresses the idea that it’s only through the will of God that we attain what we seek in life.
Taken together, the stories offer a portrait of the millions of Muslims in America, which represents the most diverse Muslim community on the planet.